Protect yourself and your children, in a time of crisis.
Safety planning allows you to create intentional ways to resist abuse and to protect yourself, and your children, in a time of crisis. Together, we can compile the skills you have and the insight you have used in the past to keep yourself safe and build upon the knowledge to keep you safe in the future. If you are currently in an abusive situation and are thinking about leaving, or have recently left, there are steps you can take to increase your safety. The safety of you and your children is the most important thing.
Developing A Safety Plan
How to stay safe during violence
When a situation where I’m not safe begins, I will move to a safe room - ideally a room with 2 exits. I will avoid bathrooms, the garage, or kitchen, and being near weapons or in rooms without access to an outside door.
Teach others in the home to call 911. If it is a regular phone (i.e., a landline and not a cell phone or phone on your computer) and the caller cannot speak, leave the phone off the hook and the call will be traced. If it is a cell phone, the caller must give the address in order for the police to find the location.
I will have a safe package (see Escape Plan list) or list already prepared and stored in a place that I can access easily and the abusive person will not find.
I will remind myself that I have an Emergency Escape Plan and rehearse it in my mind.
Start to position myself to get out quickly or to get near a phone so I can call 911 if necessary. Keep a phone with me if possible.
Use my judgment and intuition. If the situation is very serious, I can agree with my abuser or give him/her what they want to calm them down. I have to protect myself until I am out of danger.
When, or after, I have been assaulted, call the police at 911 if I can. Don't hang up the phone, so that 911 can hear if I am in further danger while waiting for police to arrive.
If I am blocked from using the phone, try and call for help loudly enough that neighbours can call the police for me.